Being needed matters to you, and so does being wanted. Your family, however you define it, is your enterprise, and you will do real work to keep it healthy. You pick up on what is lacking before anyone says a word, and you set about getting it, usually by finding the person who has it and striking a fair bargain. At your best you can hold the practical and the fair in the same hand, and people trust you for exactly that.
This is Tribal circuitry, so it runs on support, resources and loyalty. It is also emotional, which means your acceptance and rejection ride a wave. What you feel certain about tonight can look different in the morning. Give the big decisions about who is in and who is out the time they need, especially in courtship, commitment, and anything to do with sharing what you have. Clarity comes with the wave, never against it.
The trap is rejection issued too fast, of other people or of yourself. Push the wave and you will cut someone off, then wonder later why you did. It also shows up as neediness, an ache to be wanted that turns inward and starts asking whether anyone cares at all. Wait, feel it through, and let your principles speak once they are steady.