Living this, you are deeply consistent but not quick to bend. Flexibility and fast decisions are genuinely hard for you, and you can seem slow to develop simply because so much of you needs time to connect and integrate. That slowness is not a fault. It is how your system works, so honour it: take real time to absorb information before you commit. Day to day, this can look like needing a week with a question that others settle in an afternoon, then arriving at an answer more solid and more durable than anything they could have rushed to. Depth is the trade, and it is a good one.
In relationships and at work, the danger is forcing yourself to match other people's pace and expectations, which wears you down at every level. A world that prizes quick answers will keep pressing you to decide before your four areas have linked up, and complying costs you far more than it costs the people asking. Variety helps here too: moving among many different people each day gives your system a rotating supply of bridges, where living entirely inside one person's energy limits you to the single way their design connects you.
So set your own tempo and defend it kindly. Say you will get back to them, and mean it. Let big questions sit for days, make your decisions through your strategy and authority rather than under social pressure, and let the mix of people in your daily life bridge your splits naturally. What you offer in exchange for the waiting is a steadiness people learn they can build a great deal on.